CONFIDENCE IS ESSENTIAL & ANCESTRAL

Having confidence provides an ancestral edge. It helps us maneuver mental and physical challenges, tasks, and social situations with courage over fear - thus propelling us in the direction of materializing our goals and dreams. 

After coaching people all over the world for a decade I can tell you that wealth, success, and notoriety doesn’t make people confident. Great parenting doesn’t always do it either. It must be generated from within.

And watch out - don’t let someone’s career title or level of income fool you into believing that is confidence. You can be confident on the outside, and an insecure people-pleaser on the inside. We mistakenly equate extroverted, forceful personalities with true confidence. Sometimes we make poor judgments as a result - like when choosing a mate, business partner, etc.

Everybody has an area of their life that needs more self-esteem and confidence. You can be a badass boss with wealth, but lack self-esteem and confidence in personal and romantic relationships. You could be really confident in some of your skills and abilities, yet walk through life as a people pleaser who can't speak up in personal relationships.

Sometimes the most confident person in the room is the quietest person in the room. You can be quiet and confident. Don’t let reserved personalties or silence fool you into thinking someone lacks confidence.

MY BACKSTORY

 After graduating from college, my goal was to make a lot of money so that I could retire young and enjoy life - a very ambitious plan. At the age of 22, I was actually achieving it! I became a top producer at a technology-consulting firm in Silicon Valley, California. I was generating over 2 million dollars of revenue and managing over 100 consultants throughout the state of California. My clients included Charles Schwab, Wells Fargo Bank, Bank of America, AT&T and many more. 

Just as the ink was about to dry on a promotion that would have increased my annual earnings to a quarter of a million dollars…

I got benched by the universe.

A repetitive strain injury with my hands and arms left me rated as 40% disabled by the state of California. 

40% OF MY BODY IS DISABLED? WTF?!

I was horrified and devastated as you might imagine. I felt "less than" suddenly. I felt ashamed and embarrassed for being disabled and having something "wrong" with me.

My ambitious goals and future career plans came crashing down. So did my income. There are only a handful of professions that do not require the repetitive use of both hands 8+ hours a day, five days a week (on top of the hand use required to feed yourself, shower, dress, and basically just exist as a self-sufficient human being).

As you might imagine, I was frightened about my future. I could barely lift a fork to my mouth at the time. I also had intense shame about my disability and I felt like I had been branded with an embarrassing, super crappy identity THAT NO ONE IN THE WORLD WANTS.

This injury was a massive hit to my confidence and self-esteem on a variety of levels.

I reasoned that in order to survive in a hand-dominated world, I would have to find a way to use my voice to support myself. It seemed like the only chance I had. 

The first couple of years I spent away from constant computer use helped heal my hands and arms enough to live a chronic-pain free existence (with occasional flare-ups). It also gave me the opportunity to think deeply about what I was going to do with my life, considering that I was instantly unhireable from 99.99% of all professions in the world at the age of 23.

The years I spent away from having financial wealth offered me the realization that my success was never defined by my resume or my bank account. My success was and is currently defined by my perspective, my levels of self-esteem and confidence, and my happiness and fulfillment in everyday life. 

My journey had many dark days filled with lots of tears but I dove head-first into uncharted, scary waters with confidence and perseverance. And you know what, I nailed it. I am proud of myself. I want everyone to feel this proud - and I don’t just mean feeling proud of your career or personal accomplishments...I mean feeling proud of who you are on the inside because of the growth you did to love the heck out of yourself and pursue your dreams.

The goals and dreams I have accomplished thus far in life, along with amazing experiences that I have materialized - many people thought were impossible. 

I followed my passions courageously - despite the haters, naysayers, and doubters along the way. And despite a significant physical disability accompanied by debilitating shame. 

If I could do it, so can you!

For the full story about my hand injury journey, read or listen to Part 4 of my book Confident As Fu*k

MY PERSONALITY TYPE

My personality type is ENTJ. We are the rarest personality type - only 3% percent of the population. ENTJ’s are referred to as the Commander personality - natural-born leaders who possess the innate drive to lead others. The ENTJ personality type is a highly motivated and focused person who sees just about everything by focusing on the bigger picture. 

IT'S TIME TO GET CONFIDENT AS FU*K

The Ultimate Confidence Course is right for you if...

• You want to excel in profound ways in all areas of life
• You want to be admired and respected
• You want to be a leader
• You want to feel inspired and motivated 
• You want to fearlessly manifest your goals and dreams
• You want better relationships of all kinds
• You want to speak up more in life 
• You want to create and honor more boundaries with others and with yourself
• You want to be free from codependency
• You want to be happy and feel immensely grateful
• You want to succeed 
• You want to finally pursue that dream you have been hiding from.
• You want to do your life, your way
• You just want to be happy