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Stop Having and Starting NONversations

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Have you ever had conversations that feel like a royal waste of time? I call those NONversations - conversations that go nowhere.

How about those who argue with or antagonize people on the internet about politics, religion, or other hot topics? Do you really think an agro-post on someone’s social media page about politics or any other topic is going to change their opinion? More often than not, it won’t.

And let’s be real, most of the time you are not interested in opening up a heartfelt philosophical debate, you are just publicly shaming the person and trying to prove why your opinion is better. All you’re doing is creating a NONversation that will only raise the blood pressure and stress levels of both parties, which is very antagonistic to a happy existence.

I have fallen into this trap a few times with a friend who has vastly different political and social policy views than I do, and I have been guilty of starting NONversations as if somehow I think this person is going to change their views suddenly? Insanity!

Furthermore, I am only igniting those NONversations to push my viewpoint. Because no amount of debate can sway my beliefs about certain things, I am not opening up the floor for a thoughtful discussion. I basically just want to declare, “You are so wrong about this, and I am appalled that you believe this and think this way.”

Not only is it a waste of time, I regret every one of these interactions. So I stopped. It only leads to discord and aggravation and throws me out of a grateful, pleasant state of being. I don’t wanna be that person, and you shouldn’t either.

How to avoid NONversations:

  • Set clear boundaries and stick to them.
  • Avoid hot-button topics that are likely to cause tension and don't engage if they surface.
  • Be mindful of your tone and body language.
  • If necessary, agree to disagree and politely end the conversation.

Check yourself next time you are caught up in a NONversation or instigating one.

About the author:  Elle Russ is a #1 bestselling author, world-renowned thyroid health expert, and master coach. 

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